Neurodiversity & Support
This strand of my work focuses on neurodivergent identity, leadership, and unmasking. It brings together coaching, writing, and lived experience to support individuals and organisations who want to work differently, not harder.
OFF Script talk
For the leaders who never quite fit in, and now refuse to.
OFF SCRIPT is a practical, straight-talking approach to leadership and culture, shaped by lived neurodivergent experience and two decades of frontline work and becoming the UK's first openly Autistic and ADHD Chief Firearms Instructor.
It challenges performative inclusion and focuses instead on creating environments where difference is understood, supported, and allowed to thrive.
Much of this thinking is explored in depth in NeuroEdge, which underpins the coaching and leadership work that follows.
NeuroEdge:
You Are Your Only Limit
NeuroEdge is written from lived experience, not theory. It comes from the other side of the Tobey Alexander pseudonym, drawing on a career that led to becoming the UK’s first openly neurodivergent AuDHD Chief Firearms Instructor in UK policing.
The book explores what it really takes to survive and thrive in high-pressure environments while autistic and ADHD, without burning out or disappearing behind a mask. It offers practical coping strategies, reframes around identity and performance, and hard-won insights into leadership, resilience, and self-acceptance.
NeuroEdge is not about fixing neurodivergent people. It is about understanding how they already work, and learning how to stop fighting themselves to meet systems that were never designed for them.
Available in paperback, Kindle, and audiobook.
Working Together
I offer one-to-one coaching for neurodivergent adults navigating identity, burnout, leadership, or life transitions. This work is reflective, practical, and grounded in lived experience rather than fixed frameworks.
My approach is shaped by two decades in UK policing, much of it spent surviving, masking, and operating in high-pressure environments, followed by a deliberate career shift in my forties.
Alongside the NeuroEdge Six Pillars, I draw on that experience to help people find their own coping strategies and to offer support at points where the journey can feel isolating or overwhelming.
I received my AuDHD diagnosis at forty-two, after a lifetime of denial, adaptation, and hiding. As the father of neurodivergent children, I have been forced to confront my own fears, unlearn old patterns, and allow myself to be honest and vulnerable about who I am and how I work.
I do not claim to have all the answers. I am a certified Life Coach, a qualified Adult Educator, and hold further qualifications in Management and Leadership. My role is not to fix, but to walk alongside people as they work through hurdles and challenges from a neurodivergent perspective.
If you are curious about whether this work is a good fit, you are welcome to reach out for an initial conversation.
