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My life, my words, my mission
My journey has been one of self-discovery, resilience, and embracing my true self after years of hiding behind masks. With nearly 20 years in public service, I have faced demanding and often traumatic environments, gaining a wealth of experience and knowledge.
As an author, under the pseudonym Tobey Alexander, I channel my creativity into books that defy conventional genres, reflecting the strengths and challenges of autism. My works explore themes of hidden truths and masks, inviting readers into worlds where imagination and reality intertwine.
Beyond my writing, I am dedicated to promoting neurodiversity through education, awareness, and advocacy. I have shared my journey at various events, championing workplace inclusivity and acceptance. My mission is to inspire others to embrace their unique differences and foster a more inclusive world where everyone can be their authentic selves.
Join me in this journey of self-acceptance, creativity, and advocacy as we build a future that celebrates diversity and inclusivity.
"My mission is to inspire and empower individuals by showcasing the boundless creativity and unique perspectives of a neurodivergent mind, proving that true potential knows no limits. You Are Your Only Limit."
- Tobey Alexander
Public Talks
Honoured to guest speak for diverse audiences, I pride myself on sharing an open, honest, and engaging story about my journey through life and my professional career. My talks address themes of struggle, emotion, overcoming barriers, challenging inequality and discrimination, and battling inner demons. Hosted by charities such as the Women's Institute (WI), various police forces, the College of Policing, Ministry of Defence, schools, and youth organisations, I offer unique perspectives and shared lessons learned along the way. From living with a rare genetic disorder to scaling over 5,600 meters to reach Everest Base Camp with a teenager, my talks embody my mission. Interested in having me speak? Please get in touch.
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Authentic Storytelling
My speeches are grounded in open, honest, and engaging narratives, sharing personal experiences and professional insights that resonate deeply with audiences.
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Overcoming Adversity
I bring a unique perspective on overcoming barriers and battling inner demons, offering inspirational lessons on resilience, strength, and perseverance.
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Remarkable Achievements
From living with a rare genetic disorder to trekking over 5,600 meters to Everest Base Camp with a teenager, my personal achievements demonstrate my commitment to pushing limits and achieving goals.
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Diverse Engagement
I have been honoured to speak for a variety of audiences across a spectrum of age ranges and backgrounds.
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Empowering Inclusivity
I share practical processes and resources to empower neurodiverse inclusivity and awareness, providing valuable tools for individuals and managers/peers to foster a supportive and inclusive environment.
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Proven Impact
My speaking engagements have been hosted by reputable organisations such as the Women's Institute, various police forces, the College of Policing, and the Ministry of Defence, highlighting the trust and credibility I have earned as a speaker.
Get in Touch
Interested in what I have to offer, then please get in touch. I am always keen to share my journey and adventures as they happen.
Free Resources
Explore valuable resources and information designed to promote neurodiverse inclusivity in your life or organisation. Below, you'll find guides that can help create a more accepting and inclusive world or workplace, where neurodiverse talent can truly thrive. For PDF print copies, please contact me directly. These resources aim to support the rich, unseen diversity among us and ensure everyone has the opportunity to flourish. It is everyone's responsibility to foster an environment where all individuals can reach their full potential.
You Are Your Only Limit
"YAYOL" A mantra born in the mountains
Origin of YAYOL
Father-and-son mantra
"You Are Your Only Limit" (YAYOL) was conceived during an inspiring trek to Everest Base Camp in 2022 with my son. This journey, marked by rigorous training and perseverance, taught us the power of pushing beyond our perceived limits. The experience of conquering the challenging terrain of Everest not only solidified our bond but also instilled a deep belief that we are capable of achieving more than we ever imagined.
Self-Doubt
Breaking out in writing
As a writer, I often grappled with self-doubt and the fear of failure. Embracing the YAYOL mantra allowed me to break free from this cycle of negativity. It reminded me that my only true limitations were the ones I placed on myself. This shift in mindset enabled me to pursue ambitious writing projects, expand my creative boundaries, and achieve literary success. YAYOL serves as a constant reminder that overcoming self-doubt is the first step towards realising one’s full potential.
Empowering Apparel
Designs to show the world
Upon our return to England, we channelled the YAYOL mantra into a small clothing brand. Our goal was to inspire others to push their limits while looking good. Each piece of clothing is designed to embody the spirit of determination and resilience, encouraging wearers to embrace their potential and break free from self-imposed limitations. By merging style with empowerment, we aim to create a community of individuals who strive for greatness in every aspect of their lives.
Advocacy
Building beyond thought
YAYOL is not just a mantra; it is the foundation of all my advocacy work and personal endeavours. In my efforts to support and empower the neurodiverse community, YAYOL underscores the importance of rejecting imposed limitations. Whether it's through public speaking, workshops, or personal interactions, I advocate for a world where everyone has the opportunity to exceed their limits and achieve their dreams. By centralising YAYOL in my advocacy, fitness, training, and adventurous pursuits, I aim to inspire others to take control of their destinies and refuse to accept the limitations set by others.