Authentic Leadership Through Inclusive Practices
- Tobey Alexander
- Oct 6
- 4 min read
Let’s be honest. Leadership isn’t some polished, perfect art form reserved for a select few. It’s messy, human, and often downright awkward. But that’s where the magic happens. When you embrace your quirks, your vulnerabilities, and your unique perspective, you step into a space of real power. That’s what I call authentic leadership, and yes, you can read more about it here. Now, mix that with inclusive leadership practices, and you’ve got a recipe for something truly transformative.
I want to take you on a journey through what it means to lead authentically while championing inclusivity. This isn’t about ticking boxes or following a script. It’s about creating environments where everyone, especially neurodivergent individuals, can thrive. So, buckle up. We’re diving deep, but I promise to keep it real and practical.
Why Inclusive Leadership Practices Matter More Than Ever
Inclusive leadership practices aren’t just a trendy buzzword. They’re the backbone of workplaces and communities that want to grow, innovate, and genuinely support their people. When you lead inclusively, you’re not just opening doors, you’re tearing down walls.
Think about it. How often have you felt like you had to mute parts of yourself to fit in? For neurodivergent folks, that’s a daily reality. Inclusive leadership means recognising those experiences and actively working to change the narrative. It’s about creating spaces where different ways of thinking, processing, and communicating are not just accepted but celebrated.
Here’s what I’ve learned from working with diverse teams:
Listen more than you speak. Sounds simple, but it’s revolutionary. Real listening means hearing what’s not said as much as what is.
Adapt your communication style. Not everyone processes information the same way. Some prefer visuals, others need time to reflect before responding.
Create psychological safety. People need to know it’s okay to be themselves without fear of judgement or exclusion.
Inclusive leadership practices are a daily commitment, not a one-off project. They require patience, humility, and a willingness to learn from mistakes.

What are the 4 components of authentic leadership?
Now, let’s break down the nuts and bolts of authentic leadership. It’s not just about being “real” or “genuine” (though those are important). There are four key components that, when combined, create a powerful leadership style that resonates deeply with people.
Self-awareness
This is the foundation. You need to know your strengths, weaknesses, triggers, and values. Without this, you’re just guessing at how to lead. Self-awareness means being honest with yourself, even when it’s uncomfortable.
Relational transparency
This is about being open and honest with others. It means sharing your thoughts and feelings appropriately and encouraging others to do the same. It builds trust and breaks down barriers.
Balanced processing
Leaders must objectively analyse information before making decisions. This means seeking out different viewpoints, especially those that challenge your own assumptions. It’s about fairness and openness.
Internalised moral perspective
This is your compass. It’s about acting consistently with your values, even when it’s tough. It’s what keeps you grounded and authentic.
When you combine these four, you create a leadership style that’s not only effective but deeply human. It’s the kind of leadership that invites others to bring their whole selves to the table.
Practical Steps to Embed Inclusive Leadership Practices
Okay, so you’re sold on the idea of inclusive leadership, but how do you actually make it happen? Here are some practical steps that I’ve found invaluable:
1. Start with education and awareness
Get familiar with neurodiversity and the unique challenges neurodivergent individuals face. This isn’t about becoming an expert overnight but about showing up with curiosity and respect.
2. Create flexible work environments
Rigid structures can be a nightmare for many. Flexibility in hours, communication methods, and workspace setup can make a huge difference.
3. Encourage diverse hiring practices
Look beyond traditional CVs and interviews. Consider skills-based assessments or trial projects that allow candidates to showcase their strengths in different ways.
4. Foster mentorship and peer support
Pairing neurodivergent individuals with mentors who understand or appreciate their experiences can boost confidence and growth.
5. Regularly solicit feedback
Create safe channels for honest feedback about inclusion efforts. Use this feedback to make continuous improvements.
6. Lead by example
Show your own vulnerabilities and willingness to learn. When leaders model inclusive behaviour, it sets the tone for the whole organisation.
Remember, these steps aren’t a checklist to tick off once. They’re ongoing commitments that evolve as you learn more.

Why Vulnerability is a Leader’s Secret Weapon
Here’s a confession: I used to think vulnerability was a weakness. I thought leaders had to be stoic, unshakeable, and always in control. Spoiler alert - that’s rubbish. Vulnerability is actually a secret weapon.
When you show vulnerability, you invite others to do the same. It creates connection. It builds trust. And it makes your leadership authentic (see what I did there?). For neurodivergent individuals, who might often feel like outsiders, seeing a leader who’s open about their own struggles can be incredibly empowering.
Vulnerability doesn’t mean oversharing or losing professionalism. It means being real about your challenges, asking for help when you need it, and admitting when you don’t have all the answers. It’s about saying, “I’m human, just like you.”
So next time you’re tempted to put on a brave face, try dropping the mask instead. You might be surprised at the strength it brings.
Embracing the Journey: Leadership is a Work in Progress
If you’re anything like me, you know that leadership is never a destination. It’s a journey full of stumbles, lessons, and growth. Embracing inclusive leadership practices means committing to that journey with an open heart and mind.
It’s about celebrating the wins, no matter how small, and learning from the setbacks without beating yourself up. It’s about recognising that every person you lead brings something unique to the table, and your job is to create the space where that uniqueness can shine.
So, whether you’re leading a team, an organisation, or just yourself, remember this: authentic leadership is about being true to who you are while making room for others to be true to themselves. It’s messy, it’s beautiful, and it’s absolutely worth it.
Ready to take the plunge? Your team, and your own soul, will thank you.



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