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Why self-promotion feels awkward
Self-promotion can feel less like confidence and more like breaking a rule when you have spent years masking, conforming and waiting for permission to belong. This article explores how those patterns become ingrained, why neurodivergent people can struggle to celebrate themselves and what it takes to finally raise your hand.
Tobey Alexander
Jul 249 min read


From police officer to producer: finding the thread that changed everything
For years, I thought my AuDHD brain was full of random ideas and unfinished directions. In reality, I had not yet found the thread connecting them. This is how leaving policing, changing careers and building work across books, films, speaking and mentoring helped me turn chaos into purpose.
Tobey Alexander
Jul 127 min read


RSD, the Alps, and the Inner Fight I’m Finally Naming
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) is a hidden force in many neurodivergent lives. I'll behoest, I hde mine pretty well...but I souldn't.
Tobey Alexander
Aug 23, 20253 min read


Commendation for Neurodiversity
Received a Chief Constable’s Commendation for neurodiversity work. Nominated by peers, this award signifies hope for progress.
Tobey Alexander
Jun 18, 20242 min read


Volunteers Celebration Speaker
Humbled to speak at Derbyshire Constabulary's Volunteers Celebration. Shared my journey, autism awareness, and the mantra: YOU ARE YOUR ONLY
Tobey Alexander
Jun 4, 20242 min read


My self doubt cycle.
As I try and put my experiences into some sort of format to share coherently with others, I wanted to articulate when my self-doubt comes...
Tobey Alexander
May 20, 20242 min read
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