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The pendulum is swinging back, but we are still here
There is a strange feeling when you spend years watching the world slowly open a door, only to then hear the hinges creak as people start pushing it shut again.
Tobey Alexander
1 day ago6 min read


The rebellion is owning your voice
There is a particular kind of stupidity in deciding to put creative work into the world when you already know what people can be like.
I say stupidity with affection, because apparently I keep doing it.
Tobey Alexander
Aug 316 min read


OFF SCRIPT: The Blue Light Blur #29
You cannot go back and save the former version of yourself. But you can stop punishing them for surviving with the tools they had at the time. This post reflects on policing, neurodivergence, masking, support, creativity and what I would tell the younger version of me still trying to carry it all alone.
Tobey Alexander
Aug 177 min read


Why self-promotion feels awkward
Self-promotion can feel less like confidence and more like breaking a rule when you have spent years masking, conforming and waiting for permission to belong. This article explores how those patterns become ingrained, why neurodivergent people can struggle to celebrate themselves and what it takes to finally raise your hand.
Tobey Alexander
Jul 249 min read


RSD, the Alps, and the Inner Fight I’m Finally Naming
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) is a hidden force in many neurodivergent lives. I'll behoest, I hde mine pretty well...but I souldn't.
Tobey Alexander
Aug 23, 20253 min read


Commendation for Neurodiversity
Received a Chief Constable’s Commendation for neurodiversity work. Nominated by peers, this award signifies hope for progress.
Tobey Alexander
Jun 18, 20242 min read


Volunteers Celebration Speaker
Humbled to speak at Derbyshire Constabulary's Volunteers Celebration. Shared my journey, autism awareness, and the mantra: YOU ARE YOUR ONLY
Tobey Alexander
Jun 4, 20242 min read


My self doubt cycle.
As I try and put my experiences into some sort of format to share coherently with others, I wanted to articulate when my self-doubt comes...
Tobey Alexander
May 20, 20242 min read
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